I remember wanting to create an organization that would host summer camps for young girls and would specialize in teaching them self-confidence. This idea came to me during my high school years, soon after I realized my own struggle with such. I wanted it to be big, and considered waiting until I was in my thirties and well established in my career before even starting it. I remember thinking that the dream was way too big to accomplish anytime soon or maybe even ever. There was no way I could inspire all those girls or the world.
I never wanted to take on leadership roles as a young girl. I would hate to be called on in class and Lord forbid me have to present. Even in organizations I never volunteered to be a committee leader or to be the head of anything. I remember telling myself, “Your voice is too squeaky, no one wants to hear from you.”
I remember taking two classes in one semester where combined I wrote over ten 4-5 page papers. On each of those papers I scored 95 to 100% A’s. Impressive right? Wrong! I still found a way to convince myself that writing wasn’t one of my talents. I figured they were just easy classes or the grading system was glitched. There was no way I could be that good of a writer.
All of these experiences reflected my fears… the fear of incompetence, the fear of failure, the fear of insignificance, even the fear of the future.
I am sure you all can relate to feeling like any or all of these. You tell yourself, “I’m not good enough”, “There is no way I can do that”, and even “Oh, I’m sure there will be someone better than me”.
Well guess what, you are not alone! We’ve all done it! Probably talked ourselves out of things, compared ourselves to others, and even questioned our own ability to be successful or “Good Enough”.
But there comes a time when you have to be comfortable with being alone. Even if you are the only one backing you up. There comes a time when YOU MUST BELIEVE THAT YOU, ALONE, ARE ENOUGH!
You are more than enough!
It is amazing to me the things that I’ve accomplished when I have put fear aside, incompetence aside, and even a mindset of failure aside. It is your thoughts first, then your actions that ultimately determine your outcome. If you think negatively about things, you are already setting yourself up to fail. Thinking positively about things gives you the ability to accomplish your goals. By simply having an “I AM ENOUGH” mindset, you have already positioned yourself for greatness.
There is a quote by Frank Outlaw that my mom taught me as a young girl that states,
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
Therefore, your thoughts are the start of your destiny. Be careful how you are thinking, when you’re thinking about YOU! You have to believe that you are enough!
If I wouldn’t have put my fear aside and began thinking more positively about myself, I would not have accomplished all that I have thus far. I wouldn’t have founded my non-profit. I wouldn’t have gotten internships. I wouldn’t have went to college. I wouldn’t have taken on a variety of leadership roles. I wouldn’t have even embraced my writing skills and started this blog.
If Martin Luther King Jr. wouldn’t have believed he was enough, would he have been able to lead America in establishing and enforcing equal rights for all citizens?
If Steve Jobs, founder of Apple Inc., hadn’t challenged his fears about himself, would he have been able to found on of the most successful and recognizable brands in the world?
The fears of incompetence, insignificance, failure, and the future are all fears that we must make a consistent effort to demolish or they will destroy us. The most successful and inspirational people have challenged their fears, beginning with their thoughts of self! Instead of thinking “I can’t” they chose to think “I CAN AND I WILL”!
Everything that you need is already inside of you. 2 Timothy 1:7 states, “God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind” You have the power! You have the love for self! And you have the sound mind to believe in yourself! Now get out there and show the world that YOU, ALONE ARE ENOUGH!
By: Verinique D. Bailey, “The V. In Virtue”